God Vs. The Gays

DISCLAIMER: This post is not intended to disprove or discredit what the Bible says. It is simply trying to explain the evolvement of the human race since Biblical times.

(None of the gifs or pictures are mine, credit goes to all owners.)

I started attending a fairly “liberal”, nondenominational Christian church about eight years ago. This church has a support group for women who have had abortions, has female pastors, and I’ve met some of my gay friends through this church. I loved how nurturing it was, how it - for the most part - preached acceptance, just like Jesus did.

I grew up atheist and found God on my own after graduating high school, in no small part due to this very church. It was a good place, a safe place, and for that I will always be grateful to it. However, many of the people who attended this church were not as accepting as the church tried to exemplify, and therefore I gradually began detaching myself from associating with the word “Christian”. While I may agree with their beliefs, I don’t like to call myself a Christian - I don’t even like to say I’m religious. ‘Spiritual’ is a better word, and, from what I was taught at this very church, my relationship with God is strictly between Him and myself.

Now, with recent Supreme Court events that have happened, I was curious to see what this church had to say about them. I hadn’t been attending services regularly (to be entirely honest, for the past few years I’d only gone on Christmas Eve), but that’s a whole different story. I was aware that this church live streams their sermons, and then saves them online so we can watch them at our convenience. When I went to their website to find out if the recordings had been posted yet, there was a link on the front page to “A Statement From Our Pastor”. This pastor is someone I highly respect, both as a man of God and as a human being. I wanted to see what the statement was, so I clicked on it, where I was met with these words (I will not be linking the page out of respect to the church and the pastor):

“On Friday the Supreme Court ruled that same-sex marriage is legal in all 50 states. With all due respect to the court, it did not define marriage, and therefore is not entitled to redefine it.

God created man and woman and established marriage. His decisions are not subject to review or revision by any man-made court. God is clear about the definition of marriage in His word:

‘That is why a man leaves his father and mother, and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh’ Gen 2:24

Through thousands of years of cultural change, God is the same and changes not. In the multitude of nations that rise and fall, Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever!”

I would like to start off by saying the pastor worded this very eloquently and respectfully, and I appreciate that there’s substance behind it and not just another “God hates fags” type of statement. That being said, let’s explore the context surrounding Genesis 2:24:

(NOTE: All of the Bible verses I cite will be coming from www.biblegateway.com, the NIV version, as I haven’t opened my own hard copy Bible in years and have absolutely no idea where it’s hiding...which might be a sin somewhere in the book of Leviticus, too. Oops.)

Genesis 2:21-25 - “But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman, for she was taken out of man.’ 24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. 25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.”

So, one verse after the one referenced in the pastor’s statement, it clearly says neither Adam nor Eve felt shame for being naked. But don’t we all wear clothes now, for that exact purpose - to not feel shame? So if God doesn’t change, then wouldn’t we all still be walking around naked, sin or no sin? Wouldn’t we still be flooded or plagued or whatever else happened in the Bible? Shouldn’t God be the first one to evolve with the times, considering He knows about them beforehand? It doesn’t change who God is or the fact that God is unconditional love. It just means He’s watching us grow and learn to love each other. Shouldn’t that be the first thing religions support? Plus, what was the whole point of God sending His son to die on the cross for us in the first place if none of us ever sinned?

Now, I have read (some) parts of the Bible, and there are a lot of things we do besides being homosexual on a regular basis that the Bible says not to do. Also, something I was taught at this very church was that sin is sin is sin. Sexual sin is sexual sin - premarital sex (which happens just as often, if not more so, as homosexuality does) is just as much sinning in God’s eyes as homosexuality allegedly is. I’d also like to know God’s opinion on those of us gay asexuals - there’s no sex involved in our relationships, so then shouldn’t gay be okay? Shouldn’t it be okay anyway?

Of course, some of these no-no’s are things that (I would hope) we would never do anyway, like have sex with an animal (but, hey, I’m not here to judge). Then there are, of course, the obvious ones, like don’t steal or lie or sleep with a family member, but let’s touch on some of the more interesting and thought provoking ones for a moment.

(These were found at Banned By The Bible and 25 Normal Things The Bible Forbids But We Still Do)

Drinking Alcohol In Holy Places

Leviticus 10:9 - “You and your sons are not to drink wine or other fermented drink whenever you go into the tent of meeting, or you will die. This is a lasting ordinance for the generations to come.”

Now, I have taken part in Communion at church, and while the specific church I’m talking about is very good at offering grape juice and gluten free bread for those who would prefer, they do offer wine as well and I have stood at church on more than one occasion, drank wine, and not died. It specifically states this is a “lasting ordinance for generations to come”. So, if God doesn’t change, as the pastor’s message states, then shouldn’t those of us who have ever taken part in Communion (or brought a flask to a funeral, or had champagne at a wedding taking place inside a church, etc.) be dead? Didn’t Jesus drink wine at his last supper, which could easily be defined as having taken place in a “tent of meeting”. Is that actually why he died, because he drank wine?!

Mistreating Foreigners

Leviticus 19:33-34 - “‘When a foreigner resides among you in your land, do not mistreat them. 34 The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt.’”

Hmm...hmmm!! Now, I won’t speak for this specific church on this one because I do not recall them ever expressing an opinion on political issues like immigration (which doesn’t mean they never have, I just don’t remember hearing it), but I will say the majority of people against gay marriage are conservative. The majority of conservatives don’t exactly welcome immigrants into the US of A with open arms. But, see, the funny thing is, if you live in America, then, guess what? At some point in the not-so-distant past, your family immigrated here from another country. Mind boggling.

Women Speaking In Church

1 Corinthians 14:34-35 - “Women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says. 35 If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church.”

What the hell is this 1950’s sexist bullshit?! I mean, come on! I, a woman, have spoken in church, during services and at other times, to friends, to God, even in front of large groups of people. I have also sat at sermons in this church where women - usually the pastors’ wives - stand on the pulpit and preach. Or where female missionaries come and tell us about the (amazing) work they’re doing overseas. So, if you don’t think I should be allowed to get gay married, then you can’t allow your wife or daughter to speak in church. Wait - what’s that? The times are different now? Women are revered as human beings in some parts of the world? In some households in our very own neighborhood? But, yeah, no, things don’t change.

Playing American Football

Leviticus 11:7-8 -“And the pig, though it has a divided hoof, does not chew the cud; it is unclean for you. 8 You must not eat their meat or touch their carcasses; they are unclean for you.”

Okay. The pastor spoke about the Broncos from the pulpit often. He’d even make fun of my Patriots often. We had Bronco players attending that church. There would be a significant drop in attendance on Sunday mornings when the Broncos had games at the same time. I have played football IN THE CHURCH PARKING LOT. THE CHURCH ITSELF HAS A FLAG FOOTBALL LEAGUE. What are American footballs made of again…?

Working On Saturday

Exodus 31:14-1515 - “‘Observe the Sabbath, because it is holy to you. Anyone who desecrates it is to be put to death; those who do any work on that day must be cut off from their people. 15 For six days work is to be done, but the seventh day is a day of sabbath rest, holy to the Lord. Whoever does any work on the Sabbath day is to be put to death.”

This church - and many others - hold services on Saturdays.

And, for the grand finale, my final BOOYA point that makes me want to dance around in my underwear:

Getting Remarried After Getting Divorced

Look, it happens. I can’t speak from experience, as I have never been married, divorced, or remarried, but I do know and understand there are certain circumstances in which a divorce is necessary. Isn’t an individual’s happiness more important and valuable than staying with someone who makes them miserable just because the Bible tells them to? Isn’t true love the whole point of why we’re here? Don’t we all make mistakes? Haven’t we all fallen in and out of love before? Isn’t getting a second, third, fourth chance at finding the right person the whole point of what keeps us going?

If I recall correctly (and I do because I just looked it up), Deuteronomy 24:5 says this: “‘If a man and a woman have been married less than one year, he must not be sent off to war or sent away to do forced labor. He must be allowed to stay home for a year and be happy with his wife.’” So...do they or don’t they want us to be happy?! Anyway, sorry. Back to my original point of getting remarried after getting divorced:

Mark 10:10-12 - “When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. 11 He answered, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. 12 And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.’”

Okay, that’s pretty clear, but, let’s just jump back a couple verses, shall we?

Mark 10:2-5 - “Some Pharisees came and tested [Jesus] by asking, ‘Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?’ 3 ‘What did Moses command you?’ he replied. 4 They said, ‘Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.’ 5 ‘It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,’ Jesus replied.”

Whoa. Whoa. Wait a minute here. WAIT. A. MINUTE. If...if Jesus is saying, right here, that Moses said divorce was okay because everyone’s hearts were hard back then, does that mean Moses also said, that gay marriage was not okay because people’s hearts were hard back then?

I will pause and allow you to take a moment to let that sink in.

Like, I get it, okay. As the leader of a very large, very well known, very successful Christian church, there is of course an obligation to follow the word of the Bible. In fact, one of my favorite things about the sermons at this church was how the pastor would always talk about something relevant to everyday life, and back up what he was teaching with what the Bible says. Exactly what a pastor is supposed to do. And I don’t mean to call out any one person or any one church because I know this opinion is shared amongst many, and, like I said, I do have a lot of respect for this church and for the man who posted this statement. But, like, the thing is, calling out one subject so publicly that you have to post a message about it on your website, all the while ignoring the fact that you’ll be working on Saturday and are probably going home to eat a cheeseburger (Leviticus 3:17), trim your beard (Leviticus 19:27), then watch the latest SportsCenter update on which NFL player has been arrested this week for beating his wife, makes your statement null and void.

In An Ideal World

I recently took an online personality quiz, mostly because I was bored, from Play Buzz 

Which Keirsey Personality Type Are You?

The results:

"You're an idealist! Idealists are abstract and compassionate day dreamers, activists, writers, diplomats, counsellors and healers. You're the magician or medicine man of all the personality types. You're a deeply emotional and abstract thinker with cooperative and communitarian goals. You long for deep, meaningful relationships and you constantly contemplate how you can help the common good. You're guided by strong personal ethics, and you often have an ideology, cause, or way of viewing the world that you take very seriously. You're easy going until someone challenges your values, at which point you can be the fiercest of opponents. At heart, you're a natural healer with a great depth of empathy or those around you."

For those of you that don’t know me - which is probably all of you because even if you do know me, you don’t really know me - this is 100% accurate. Every single part. Let’s dissect, shall we?

1.) “You’re an Idealist!” a person who is guided more by ideals than by practical considerations.

I’m a dreamer. Always have been, hopefully always will be. That’s probably why I’m a writer. 

Why I can let my imagination run so wild that I have about zero percent grasp on reality. But, like, reality’s boring, yeah? Fantasy is so much more fun! My friends always tell me that they’re jealous of my dreams - my actual asleep, bedtime dreams, because they’re always so vivid. Usually both random yet relevant at the same time - 75% of what I dream about, when I wake up I can find the connection. Usually the people I dream about are people I know. The places I dream about aren’t. Sometimes I have a recurring nightmare - had it just the other night, in fact. I feel like nighttime dreams are directly tied in with life goal dreams. But I’m getting way beside my point here...must be the dreamer in me.

2.) “Compassionate day dreamers, writers, healers.”

I believe I’m compassionate, I’m just quite terrible at expressing it. It comes out immensely in my writing, though. In fact, I’ve learned a lot about myself from my writing, because I usually write romance fiction where I discover what my ideal (no pun intended) relationship would look like. That doesn’t mean it’s perfect - of course there’s conflict, or there would be no story. But the points I try to make in all of my stories are forgiveness and unconditional love. People have flaws, people make mistakes, but in order to exist we have to love and forgive. Again, this is something that’s much easier for me to do in my writing than in my real life, but that’s why I’m a dreamer, right? Because in my ideal world, I’d be able to do those things much easier. I also tend to write hurt/comfort stories, where one of the characters is upset about something - anything - and their significant other has this immediate need to fix it for them. I hate when the people I love are upset, but I hate more when it’s something that’s out of my control or something I’m unable to offer advice about because I’ve never been there...which is most situations, because, well, real life is boring.

3.) “Deeply emotional with cooperative...goals.” 

I might be a little bit emotional...again, something I express easier when I’m not in front of people. Something significantly devastating can happen in my life and I won’t tell my friends until a week later, because I would’ve cried if I had had to talk about it right away, and there’s nothing I hate more than crying in front of people. 

Either that, or I’ll play it off like I don’t care until I’ve bottled everything and it explodes. A dear friend very recently told me that I bottle things so that I don’t make other people worry about me. She might be right - she usually is. As far as the cooperation thing, well, I hate conflict and avoid it at all costs. If that means keeping my mouth shut because I don’t want an argument, then so be it. I also can’t stand confrontation and will make personal sacrifices just to avoid it in order to keep the peace. Nothing wrong with that, right? Not in an ideal world, anyway.

4.) “You long for deep, meaningful relationships.”

I have a hard time reading fictional books (this has a point, I promise). Sometimes they have a good message but a lot of the time I walk away feeling like I did after watching “Donnie Darko” - 

- what the hell was the point of that?! What a waste of time! I realize the hypocrisy in this since I am a fiction writer, but, it’s not like I’m going to be reading my books. I enjoy a good comedy film as much as the next guy, but nothing gets me like a nice drama that makes you feel something, that makes you relate to the characters and pull for them even when they mess up. My writing is all about meaningful relationships, about people that have known each other for a long time or just recently met but are enamored with each other to the point of taking bullets for one another (literally). In my writing, I have many of those relationships. In real life, only a handful, but those people are very dear to me and my loyalties lie with them.

5.) “Guided by strong personal ethics, have a...way of viewing the world that you take very seriously. Easy going until someone challenges your values, at which point you can be the fiercest of opponents.”

This is pretty accurate as well. While I am definitely a conflict avoider, I have a handful of subjects that I will always defend, like gay rights, women’s rights, and the fact that Tom Brady is the greatest quarterback to ever exist. If you do choose to challenge me on these things, please do it intelligently. “Tom Brady sux” won’t even warrant a response.

6.) “A natural healer with a great depth of empathy for those around you.”

I am probably a little too empathetic...I feel empathy for fictional characters in movies, for the people that are sung about in songs, for the characters in my stories even though I’m the one putting them through things, for animals, etc. It can actually be a burden and sometimes I wish I didn’t feel that way, because I’ll take on other’s emotions and pain.

I think it’s important to learn about ourselves. Online quizzes are probably not the most accurate, but when you find one that you feel makes sense, why not run with it? Explore things about yourself, learn who you are and why you’re that way. Figure out how to relate to other people who are completely different from you.

There’s a thing (I believe it's in Christianity, but you definitely don't have to be religious for it to make sense) called the 5 Love Languages, which is basically different ways each individual most comfortably expresses or receives love, and they don’t always have to be the same. The five are touch, acts of service, words of affirmation, receiving gifts, and quality time. I am, 100%, words of affirmation, both giving and receiving. It used to be difficult for me to be around people who had a different love language than myself - like, why are you cleaning up the mess I made in the kitchen baking cookies when really all I need is for you to tell me the cookies taste good (haha, that was obviously hypothetical, like I’ve ever baked cookies a day in my life)? But once I learn what another person’s love language is, then I try to cater to it, as long as it’s someone I care about. If you’re curious about yours, there are a couple online quizzes you can take as well to find out. Mine has changed over the years, as well. I used to score very low on touch, and now it’s my second strongest (which is probably funny coming from an asexual). 

(Surprised I got this far without doing a One Direction gif? You had to know it was coming.)

That’s all for now. I have a post on religion I’m working on and I’ll do one on judgment vs. acceptance soon as well. Hope you’re enjoying this blog, I promise I’ll try and make it funnier in the future!

Once again, all credit to gif owners - none are mine.

Hello In Every Language

Welcome friends, family, countrymen/women/non gender specific. This is a blog for acceptance. Humor and happiness and random ramblings of a 27 year old (not natural) blonde. If you need a laugh or need to feel like you're not alone, you've come to the right place, love. (I also really like using gifs even if they're not 100% relevant.)

I have recently discovered I am both bisexual and asexual. The bisexual thing I figured out a few years ago. The asexual thing is within the past year, and it's been interesting, to say the least.

The bisexual thing is the easier one to deal with. Most people - at least most in my generation - have been cool about it. No, it’s not a choice, it’s just something I didn’t realize until a couple years ago, and now that I know, my past makes a lot more sense. I’m openly bisexual and flirt with males and females (although to be honest I quite prefer the ladies).

The asexual thing sucks, majorly. Everything in this world has to do with sex. Every movie, every TV show, every song, every book, every magazine, every commercial - it’s everywhere.

Trying to explain it to people is like talking to brick walls. They don’t understand - “Oh, you just haven’t met the right person yet,” they’ll say. “Oh, you just haven’t had good sex yet,” they’ll say. 

But, the thing is, I don’t understand their side of things, either. Like...how do you even have sexual desires? Just like I don’t believe you have to have been with both a man and a woman to know your sexual preference, I don’t believe you have to have had sex (good or bad) to know you’re asexual (or ace, as I will be referring to it on occasion). 

That being said, I am more than willing to answer questions about it, especially for those who might be wondering if they’re in the same boat. Advice? Look it up on Tumblr - there are a lot more of us out there than you think.

This entry is short because it's my first one and I had too much fun finding gifs to write anything more. I will add more entries soon though. If you have anything you'd like me to discuss, let me know and I'll see what I can do!

What, over? Did you say over?

(None of the above gifs are mine, all credit to owners.)